Snake Oil
Becoming Beautiful
I excitedly experienced Las Vegas for the very first time in the mid nineties. Seeing Caesars Palace is something on almost everyone's visitor to do list. I walked around the opulent casino and was not only struck by the impressive casino itself, but noticed something else that was equally spectacular. There were male and female models dressed as goddesses, or male gladiators mixed in with the crowds. Apparently ten’s got paid to walk around, talk to people, look gorgeous, and make the place look and feel even better. It was wild to see something like this, yet it made me just a bit uncomfortable as well. While I have always been a fan of looking at beautiful things, my twenty six years old ego felt like I paled in comparison. My self esteem and confidence in my looks at that time was not very high. Still, I was impressed by all of it and thought, yes I needed to look at why this triggered me, and could I work to make myself better looking if I really chose to?
It was not a difficult search for the answer to what the trigger was. In my Catholic family we were taught to be humble, stay in the back round, and look kind of small. Oddly both of my parents and all of my siblings are either good looking, or at least decent looking. Still, most of us followed mom and dad’s lead on being shrinking violets. I never thought I was very attractive as a kid. But I did see how much value there would be in becoming handsome and more attractive. While there can be traps and added challenges for anyone who is attractive, you simply get more opportunities and treated better in almost every area of life by being physically attractive. In addition, I figured maxing out creating a muscular body would not only ward off bullies, make me healthier, and likely get me more opportunities for hot partners too! I saw the whole thing as a win-win and began to step away from all the smallness that was part of my family’s Iconography.
Working out four days a week started in my teens, but I ramped it up even more in my twenties. My improved physical body, dressing better, rising confidence, and other benefits really took off in my thirties and early forties. I still work out for about an hour a day four times a week. Now in my early sixties, it is such a built in part of my life that I truly enjoy it, and even feel bummed if I miss workouts. One of the most common misunderstandings and excuses I hear from people about why “they don’t go to a gym or work out” is often things like, “I hate going to gyms. It’s all about a bunch of good looking guys and girls admiring themselves in the mirrors.” Oh how wrong this is! Most avid bodybuilders, yoga practitioners, and other people committed to exercise, have at least some elements of body dysmorphia. The tendency to over scrutinize oneself and be hypercritical of how one looks is far, far more common than people who think they are perfect. “Why are my shoulders still so small?” “What is this gross lingering seven pounds around my mid section still doing here?” “I need to get my legs thicker, they look like crap.” The search for body perfection is an endless pursuit. A lot of professional models that are seen as incredibly beautiful are equally critical of “how they should look.”
All of us form beliefs about beauty at a young age. Frequently these are held onto and never examined and released. This can limit our confidence and potential to be beautiful, especially when they are negative or blocking perspectives. We see pretty girls in school and some of them act terrible (mean girls) and decide that “All pretty people are shallow.” In my experience, religious influences pushed the idea that vanity is a bad thing. Often virtuousness and goodness are considered missing in anyone who is physically attractive. Letting ourselves, or allowing ourselves to be beautiful is something we really have far more leeway over. Often this is not even considered as a possibility by many people, and is frequently fraught with negative belief traps that consciously or unconsciously contribute to limiting our potential. “They won’t care about what is inside and love me because I am pretty.” “My family’s genetics makes us less attractive and there is nothing I can do about that.” “All pretty people are shallow and I am so much more than my looks.” In some cases excessive weight gain, or unconsciously marring our physical looks can strangely feel safer, like a shield of armor to keep ourselves from taking the chance on intimacy. This is common by the way for those with a chief negative feature of arrogance.* Arrogance is actually a fear of being judged, compared, and being vulnerable. Often those with this fear will push themselves to be very successful, or to look flawless only to have others be afraid to approach them at all! This inevitably creates more struggle inside the arrogant person wondering “What is still wrong with me?”
Age and wisdom can help us to also broaden the scope of what beauty actually is. The thoughtful grandma who beams with pride when she looks at her grandchildren can be beautiful. The aunt who happily makes delicious meals for us when we visit is beautiful. The man who rescues dogs from cruel owners is beautiful, no matter what he looks like. The senior man who greets everyone with a thoughtful hello and a smile as a greeter at Walmart is beautiful in his own way. The guy on social media who orders large amounts of food at local mom and pop restaurants to feed the homeless is beautiful. The man who gives up his seat on the subway so a pregnant woman or struggling elderly person can sit is beautiful. All of these things and many other examples of people that make us feel good, or do good is less about physical comeliness, even when they are physically pretty! They are unquestionably beautiful souls. They make the world a more beautiful place and remind us that we can choose to do similar things.
There are so many aspects of life itself that are outlets for us to experience beauty. Beauty can often come through with an appreciation for art: paint, photography, dance, humor, literature, poetry, drama, film, television, music, architecture, to name just a few. We have the beauty of nature: animals, mountains, oceans, trees, plants, sunsets...etc. All of these things and so many other elements to life make it magical to be alive to witness some of such a myriad of appealing options.
Human physical beauty is very pleasing and simply nice to look. We don’t have to virtuously pretend that it isn’t. We are wired to enjoy beauty although everyone has different versions of what they find attractive (Venus placements in astrology). But there are really many ways to be beautiful. I recently saw 1970’s popular singer Carly Simon on a social media site. She is well into her eighties. She still wears great outfits, cool hats, and has an incredible sense of style. She may not have the skin of a twenty year old, but she is still beautiful. And she left a legacy of incredible music! At any point no matter how old, or young we are, we can choose to let our beauty shine and light up the world. Whatever we have been taught to believe about beauty, whether physical, spiritual, emotional or with simple acts of kindness, we can change those beliefs and our actions and behaviors if we choose too. Discovering, sharing, and expanding this part of ourselves will inevitably unleash more beauty into this world, and what’s wrong with that?
Jim Ventura 3-2025
*Arrogance is one of seven fears or chief negative features. Generally people have one or two of these fears that often lock in around age nineteen.
“I think that being happy makes the biggest impact on your physical appearance.’ Drew Barrymore
“Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” Coco Chanel
Notes:
Summer is around the corner and we still have some time to enjoy the tail end of spring. Here in Phoenix, the weather can be a bit volatile, still it is generally a very nice time of year. I often share with my readers, and in a more detailed way with the clients I speak to in personal sessions, that we are not only experiencing the weather but also collectively creating it. Simply put, turbulent weather is quite natural and it is purposefully meant to clear uncomfortable energy and the landscape. The more the populace in any area is angry, unhappy, or fearful, etc... one of the ways to clear this can often be exhibited through extra powerful even damaging at times storms. We are part of this world, and the landscape itself both individually and collectively!
2025 has been filled with some notable tests so far, but breakthroughs have also been abundant. Often there are parallels both in my social world with friends, and especially with so many of my regular clients. This is why when I achieve breakthroughs in both the tangible world and usually first intuitively or with new knowledge and clarity, I happily share some of this in my writing, social media sites, and in a deeper more personalized way with my regular clients. This acts as a stimulus for them to make breakthroughs of their own, or what I consider a win-win for everyone involved! And as of late, the expansion and movement to more happy personal lives, and prosperity have been notable to see. Fortunately I am very sure there are a lot more breakthroughs ahead.
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Happy late Spring and start to the summer. Cheers, Jim V
“May is the month of promises and sweet beginnings of summer.” unknown
“A perfect summer day is when the sun is shining, the breeze is blowing, the birds are singing, and the lawnmower is broken.” James Dent
Channeled corner. I read many, many books from different trance channelers in the 80s, 90s, and early 2000s. Unfortunately many of them are now out of print, but I still have a huge collection and will share some of the best material I have collected over the years.
Old Age
“...Even more upsetting is the loss of mental function. This is entirely unnecessary, as you are meant to be lucid and alert to your last breath. But, again, if your mind cannot observe the changes in the body with calm and appreciation, for the inevitable blessed release of death, then the mind will shut down in order to allow the process to occur unhindered. You see the rise in Alzheimer’s disease in your society, for instance. You will never find a single case of this occurring in any native population, those in tune with the natural order. It is a creation of your culture, reflecting your quaking fear at the prospect of death, your ignorance of the eternal driving flow of energy between physical and nonphysical, and your part in the cycle. If the mind will not naturally and gracefully accept the decline of the body, it will be crippled to allow that work of old age to occur.
You see what a vicious cycle you have running in your society. First you cast off the elderly because they no longer contribute to the economy. Then you view their physical decline with horror, turning away from the terror of death this represents to you, and thus literally cripple your old people in mind and body. The elderly of native populations know nothing of the panoply of diseases from which your elderly may select. They know nothing of aphasia. They understand that the physical body reflects the grand design fueling the world and calmly accept their place within it. You know the elderly are accorded positions of respect high above all others in native cultures. This you find quaint and amusing. As a result, you have Alzheimer’s. Do you consider this also quaint and amusing?
The elderly, those who have lived full and rich lives, are possessed of wisdom precisely because they have tested their beliefs and assumptions against the physical world, day after day, year after year, and have drawn conclusions as to what matters and what does not. If you ask the elderly for their advice to young people, almost always you will hear admonitions to take chances, take risks, spend more time in youth exploring, living a variety of experience, not settling down too young...”
Partial quote from Whatever Happened to Divine Grace by Jose Stevens
“Happy people build their inner world; unhappy people blame their outer world.” Dalia Lama
“Outer beauty attracts, but inner beauty captivates.” Kate Angell
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