May 2018 Snake Oil
What Me Worry?
It’s probably no surprise to anyone who is Virgo (Sun, Ascendant, or Moon) or has a few planets in Virgo in their Natal Astrology chart that they can often get caught in the worry trap. I recently found out that left-handed people are prone toward post-traumatic-stress-disorder and worry. I am a lefty and I have three planets in a Virgo conjunction in my natal chart. The information was actually a relief because it confirmed that I was “normal.” So far for most of my lifetime, when I experienced any type of stressful or traumatic event I had a tough time being fearful that something similar might ever happen again. The positive side of this obstacle is I have a sharp mind and I am often twelve steps ahead when it comes to taking care of the details of life as if I am playing a chess game. This strategy and approach has often been beneficial in avoiding potential problems. But, the negative side of this attribute is definitely problematic because It can make me prone to worrying about difficult possibilities that could come my way. I get caught up trying to resolve these things before they become an issue. Whether you are a lefty, Virgo, or for any other possible reason we all get caught in the worry trap from time to time. It is an uncomfortable, lousy place to be. Is there a way out though?
I have always been a believer that almost everything can be solved or resolved, if you are willing to study the subject and apply solutions. Even if it means finding an expert with more knowledge than you to help, most things can be resolved because solutions are the flip side of problems. They exist as a part of each other. Seeing things this way is one of the good aspects of my Virgo energy, combined with a bit of my Sun in Sagittarius optimism! My mission was to find a way to solve the habit of worry itself. I decided I would find a way to spend the second half of my life free of obsessive worry. Aside from the discomfort that we often feel emotionally, physically, and mentally from worry, it is also extremely negative in that it can act like a form of prayer. We become consumed with thinking and focusing on what we are afraid might happen, or about what is happening and whether it will become even worse. This focus of energy can feed the manifestation probability and may end up contributing to creating the very things we so desperately want to avoid. This is another reason why finding a way to eliminate the worry habit was a worthwhile undertaking.
During my studies of this subject I learned a few interesting things about this process and I was able to find real solutions to what worrying is and does to us. The new way of looking at how we typically respond to worry and the solutions I discovered can really assist in removing or at least minimizing this issue for anyone willing to make the shift. One thing to remember when we find ourselves worrying is that most of the things we worry about never actually happen. If you could list all of the concerns, fears and things you worried might happen over your entire lifetime so far, you would see that probably around ninety five percent of the potential problems never turned out the way we feared they would. The few that did materialize often had solutions that we couldn’t see at first when they first presented themselves. My air conditioning unit went out in the late summer about seven years ago. This was truly an Arizona nightmare. When I had it checked out, I was quoted with a potential bill of $7,500 to solve it. I worried a lot when that happened. When I calmed down, I decided to call another company for a second opinion. The second company told me that I could replace the unit on the roof and leave the interior that also needed work for another 5-10 years. I still had to come up with $1900 to get it running again, but it is still working really well and now with awesome, powerful and reasonably inexpensive portable room to room units, I am not sure if I will even replace the interior system.
When we worry, we block information and solutions from coming to us. Another important thing to remember when the worry habit grips us is what if the bad thing that is or could happen is actually turns out to be a beneficial thing? Many people fear things like their spouse cheats on them, they get divorced, or simply end up being alone. Yet, more often than not, when we let go of a mate that doesn’t fit with us we find being single can be wonderful also. Often people struggle with losing a mate and the details of its end, only to come to a different perspective about it. Often they end up finding someone who is so much more of an amazing match for them! Yet, how could they ever have come to the new place of happiness unless they had circumstances that made them leave the previous situation? We may fear losing our job, yet that may be the very catalyst that opens the door to a new career or job that we really love. We may fear losing our home or being forced to move, only to find that we like the new home far better, and maybe our future next mate or new best friend is living right next door!
We often get caught up trying to obsessively control events. There are times when this can be necessary and valuable. Our ego has a purpose and can be useful. Life is about making choices and taking appropriate action. Being too passive can create problems. Still, if we let go and trust that the path we are on or the seeming obstacle course that has surfaced may be part of the solution, we are on the right track to being at peace. The Universe is not stupid or against us. Believe it or not our Higher Selves are extremely wise. Events that seem to be problems are often medicine or blessings in disguise.
Worry can bring up fear around being worthy of receiving assistance. We are not cast aways, left behind in this world without help and support. We have friends, family, and other people who can support, guide, and assist us if we are open to asking for help when we experience problems. We also have unseen helpers, spirit guides, angels, nature, as well as other forces that will look out for us and help us. We can open to more of this assistance if we are willing to ask and to be open to the answers that come to us.
It can take practice to eliminate the worry habit, yet it is something we can all do. If we are willing to trust that everything that we experience, even seemingly very negative things happen for a reason, then we can realize we always learn from difficulty, because it will inevitably make us smarter and stronger. We can become more knowledgeable and wiser from those experiences. The best part is that through experience we can develop in ourselves an aversion to any conduct that can bring stress into our lives, inevitably having far less of it in our future. Often we will be able to help and assist other people precisely because of what we learned!. When we release the worry habit we can become more tuned into the reality that every problem does have a solution. If we are willing to drop this unproductive habit and learn to trust and relax, we can tune into the awareness that a solution is always on its way.
Jim Ventura 9-1-2013
Notes:
This column actually ran originally in late 2013. It’s hard to believe that was now 5 years ago! The Mad magazine reference here makes me think of the field day this magazine is having with our current political climate. As stressed as many people are about the bizarre place we find ourselves politically, love him or hate him President Trump/a former reality TV show star has been a gift for comedy and the media. When it comes to the subject of this column I have definitely gotten a lot better about shifting away from the worry habit. Can’t say that I have completely overcome the trap of getting pulled in, but far less often and shorter durations have become more of the norm for me. I am very proud of my consistent Regular Clients and their work as well in this area. I have seen some great improvements for so many of past and current Regulars! I will be talking more about the process and value of self improvement in next month’s or July’s brand new column called; “As I cultivate my own nature all else follows.”
I posted this on Face-book last month and it is definitely worth running here as well: If you get an email from me or anyone that you know that doesn't have any added information and just a link, don't click on it. Email scammers look for people with strong online presences and copy the email or their actual name. Usually you can tell by the bizarre suffix added at the end. If it doesn't have a recognizable Internet address like yahoo, AOL, Gmail, Me, Mac, Hotmail, etc... its B.S (example: venturasag@chekit.commx) was one that a few people told me they got from “me.” Of course it wasn’t from me. I have gotten a number of them over the years from people claiming to be someone I know, including some of you! Usually its something like "you have to check this out and then just a link" Anything from me will likely be well written, have a lot of added information, that sounds like my stuff, comes from yahoo, and my blog column links themselves are through GMail/Google specifically.
The summer is arriving unfortunately (going to start to get too damn hot this month during the day) but the flip side is that so many of Arizona's “snow Birds/winter visitors” are going home. Roads become less crowded, things have a bit more of a relaxed, quieter pace. When I was a waiter and bartender in my twenties and thirties I needed the extra business and income when winter visitors were here. I don’t need that anymore, especially because in my current business of Navigational Consulting more than half of my clients are now by phone consultation. So even when my winter visitors leave they can still have sessions! Keep that in mind for all of my in office visitors who have moved away or for any other reason can’t get here in person. Phone sessions can be just as useful as in-office visits.
Wishing everyone a Happy May. Cheers, Jimmy V
Channeled corner. I read many, many books from different trance channelers in the 80s and 90s. Unfortunately many of them are now out of print, but I still have a huge collection and will share some of the best material I have collected over the years.
A projection into the future from Seth piece from Spirit Speaks magazine
“Fear is the opposite of love. Fear is based upon not knowing, upon preparing for the unknown, for what might happen, for that which is not actually present in the moment. Fear is based totally upon future projection, which comes from evaluating the past, not only of your own lives but of other’s, and drawing deductions about what might happen to you in the future. This is what your insurance companies do; they project at what age you are likely to get sick, be disabled, or die, how many of you are likely to do that, and in what way.
Now, read enough statistics and you will necessarily start making yourself believe that this must be the way it is. And, in this way, society, group mind, and industry dictate the nature of your beliefs. Metaphysically, fear is the opposite of love, the opposite of love based upon the absence of knowledge, because you can love and be comfortable with that which you know. It is always the unknown that you fear the most.”
“The spiritual path - is simply the journey of living our lives. Everyone is on a spiritual path; most people just don’t know it.” Marianne Williamson
“Good judgment comes from experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment.” Will Rodgers
New Client Special 2018:
January 1st 2018 thru July 31st, 2018 Special: New Client introductory offer
$10-15 off listed rates for your first 45 minute session, 70, or 90 minute session! Ask for the special when you email Venturasag@yahoo.com to book. Debit and credit card payments get $10 off for 45-90 minute sessions. Local in-office clients can get an extra $5 off for cash or check payments for sessions. If you want to buy a new client a thoughtful gift of a session you can also take advantage of these rates!
$10-15 off listed rates for your first 45 minute session, 70, or 90 minute session! Ask for the special when you email Venturasag@yahoo.com to book. Debit and credit card payments get $10 off for 45-90 minute sessions. Local in-office clients can get an extra $5 off for cash or check payments for sessions. If you want to buy a new client a thoughtful gift of a session you can also take advantage of these rates!
My current rates (new clients can subtract the above discounts from these rates): 45 minute sessions $85. 70 minute sessions $110. 90 minute sessions $130. Sessions can be in-office or by phone.
“Everyone remembers according to their own self interests. Understand this and let it go.” Dick Sutphen The Spiritual Path Guidebook
Snake Oil Radio
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My next live broadcast of Snake Oil Radio will be Thursday, May 3rd at 3:30 p.m. mountain time. Usually one or two Thursdays each month you can catch a new show. Each 45 minute show will expand on my current column’s subject matter. It will also offer an opportunity for you to call in live (or chat with other listeners in the chat room) with comments and your thoughts about the topic of discussion. If you miss the live show, you can catch any of my previously recorded shows on the web site’s archive. You can also catch Snake Oil Radio on I-tunes (download my pod-casts there).
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“Who you resist you will eventually become. All resistance is fear. If after repeated opportunities, you do not cease to resist a particular race, sexual orientation, those who believe differently, or who have character traits you despise, you will have to reincarnate as one of ‘them’ so you can learn acceptance.” Dick Sutphen
Here’s my contact information to make an appointment for a session, or information on current classes: Email: Venturasag@yahoo.com (best method for contact).
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All sessions/readings for 2018 are: Full (70 minutes) $110.00; Shorter session (45 minutes) $85.00; Extended session (90 minutes) $130.00 (two people can split an extended session back to back for $65.00 each, although no other discounts will apply). Email me for information about my Regular Client Program for even bigger discounts on session prices with the added benefit of monthly or quarterly check-ins.
All Current Snake Oil subscribers get $5.00 off all listed prices for any 45-90 minute sessions (except when using a special discount promotion). Local in office visits receive another $5 off listed prices for cash or check payments. No added discounts apply when responding to specials though.
Session Highlight
REALITY CHANGE SESSIONS
These session(s) are all about understanding how our personal realities are formed, and developing the skill to change yours! Almost every area of your life can be changed for the better. This session will show you how to uncover the limiting beliefs that have blocked your progress. The beliefs that block us from experiencing happiness, and success in any area of life are not hidden. Their are many methods for uncovering what is limiting us. Instructions will also be given for new methods and tools to create the present and future you truly want. I often quote famous authors who talk about this subject. Learn in a one on one session with me about how to begin to master some of these techniques.
You can literally recreate yourself
Change your beliefs - Change your reality
Suggested session length 70-90 minutes.
If you read this far into the newsletter and caught this you can request a Reality Change Session in May 2018 for $20 off my listed rates. No additional discounts will apply at this time. Email me at VenturaSag@yahoo.com and mention this special when requesting my availability calendar.
